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Katie_41 posted a comment on Back with a sneeze
Freedom from all of that crap- kittens and strangers included! ❤️Katie 1 minute ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on One year on..back to Day 1
Welcome back! And hey - you're already a step ahead with a dream guy that doesn't have problems with alcohol. Focus on you and stock up on all the things you ne... 2 minutes ago
Katie_41 posted a comment on Is this about me? Yes,
I ❤️ this! Thank you! XoKatie 4 minutes ago
alicia1997 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 5 minutes ago
Katie_41 posted a comment on Really battling the inner dialogue
I was going to say before I read the other comments- get rid of the vodka!!! You got this! Why even tempt yourself? xo Katie 6 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on Running and fitness
Have you ever regretted going on a run? NO! Have you ever regretted NOT going on a run? YES! You know what the hardest part of running is? PUTTING ON YOUR SHOES... 7 minutes ago
jafmom has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 10 minutes ago
Ian_Wight has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 10 minutes ago
Biba has commented in the forum discussions Solos'itas
Quakers! 15 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on She called , I answered.
In awe of your 4 years sober. It took some big sober muscles to get there - they just gotta get pumping again. Way to jump back on here again and thank you for... 17 minutes ago
Biba has commented in the forum discussions Solos'itas
Hello Staying Alive. Good to hear you. No, no deposit. We are meeting outside FatFace at Euston Stn. From 12.15ish. Then over to Wellcome Museum across road for... 20 minutes ago
BabyOnyx posted a comment on She called , I answered.
Wow Glitter: It just goes to show that addicted neural pathways are Forever, regardless of how much time elapses between drinking cycles.(Alcohol Explained/Will... 23 minutes ago
Emwaromida has commented in the forum discussions All About August
Hello everyone, Kim 18 months amazing 🎉🌟🎉😊fab xHope Great to see you back we missed you too. Where are you off to next ? XShywolf So Sorry things are so hard fo... 25 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on Nervous Newbie! Advice Needed!
I was nervous too. It took many stops and starts and re-living the dreaded Day 1 over and over again. Sometimes you have to grit your teeth and throw a tantrum... 27 minutes ago
BabyOnyx posted a comment on It's my SOBERVERSARY!! 1 year AF!!!
Amen Sista 👏👏👏💪!!!Love you, O/Celeste 🥰 27 minutes ago
henryjac1 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Day 71/100Reading lots of information/blogs on this site, is undoubtedly helping me enormously. Some incredible stories and insights 31 minutes ago
BabyOnyx posted a comment on Nervous Newbie! Advice Needed!
Cesca: First Good for You to be thinking about dry land 👏! Second, never permit fear of failure get in the way of doing what you Know is best for You 💪. Nothing... 33 minutes ago
StayingAlive has commented in the forum discussions Solos'itas
Just dropping in to say looking forward to meeting some of you at the end of August.  Or re-meeting as is mostly the case – from having crossed paths at earlier... 38 minutes ago
Maggie-Sara has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 43 minutes ago
Tabitha5 posted a comment on Just sleep on it
Tinadarling24 let me clarify:) for as long as I can remember up until 7 months ago (several years now) EVERY day has been a cheat day, no exercise day, drink da... 45 minutes ago
Lolaseagreen has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Welcome Enteleca - lovely to have you here!Soberforward - Extreme tiredness is a pain, but your body is obviously needing rest. I hope your OH op goes well tomo... 53 minutes ago
Patsytaz has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Well i'm back from my 'cheap and cheerful' week away which was cheerful but by no means cheap lol. I have had a very different week to my norm though which is q... 53 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol has posted the blog Back for good
Day 3 sober. Day 2 no smoking. I had 40 days sober/no smoking under my belt and then I found my dad dead in his home and my world SHATTERED. The day he died I c... 58 minutes ago
Cathrine has posted the blog Here I am
Hello Istas, Here I am at day 30.😉I asked myself , What does this mean to me.I came up with, it meansthat I feel like my feet are firmly planted on the ground.... 1 hour ago
Enteleca has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
I Enteleca do hereby give my word, that I do now make aSolemn binding pledge, that I will reject alcohol inAll its guises. I join this crusade and my initialtar... 1 hour ago
Sunshine123 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
QACI ..... day 9/100 👍💪💪💪 xxx 1 hour ago
BabyOnyx has posted the blog AF 200
Hi lovelies 😘:It's been a while since I last blogged/got caught up here with You. But I wanted to check in and Shout Out that I'm Celebrating yet another AF mil... 1 hour ago
PoppyRainbow posted a comment on BEING PRESENT FOR SPECIAL OCCASIONS
Thank you Vanessa 3, I’ve my first AF wedding this weekend and part of me is nervous even though my toolkit is as prepared as possible. But your words just spur... 1 hour ago
Soil has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Well done Jenwren on 100 days and BabyO on 200!  Brilliant 1 hour ago
Villager58 posted a comment on Nervous Newbie! Advice Needed!
Hi CescaIt is very nerve racking and the best advice I can give is to not think about the "what if I can't do it" question, and definitely don't think about "fo... 1 hour ago
TinaDarling24 posted a comment on Nervous Newbie! Advice Needed!
Just try it for say...a week. Make a goal and stick with it, no matter what. If and when you make it, give yourself a reward (not alcohol!). Make notes of the... 1 hour ago
Running girl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Afternoon gang, sorry ive been absent of late. The solar power was saved for the big All Ireland match on tely on Sunday my phone has depended on the odd car c... 1 hour ago
coffee-cup has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Afternoon Skinnies!MY HEAD IS BACK!! 😀🎉Seriously though as soon as I get get a grip on the triggering of these binges the better! It’s exhausting!Im off to a bo... 1 hour ago
BabyOnyx has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
NEW: Simply FAB on your 7 months AF 👏💃💪👍😘!!!JENWREN: You DID IT lovely - AF 💯👌👏🥰💪🎖!!! Lovin on all my TracesAces babes today 😍 -We've got 4 Tenners - SUNSHINE,... 1 hour ago
Hedwig has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hello, quick check in, got my birthday cake to finish off making for tomorrow! Finding it very hard to no5 have a nibble! 😆😆😆congratulations to everyone on Trac... 1 hour ago
Sparkles_4 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Second posting for Trace's Aces❤ Please remember to post regularly and re-pledge for the next 100 days to stay on the celebration boards ❤  Please PM Sparkles i... 1 hour ago
Shillybugguk posted a comment on Top 3 Benefits of being sober - courtesy of the 100 thread
Wow. I’ve got complete goosebumps ! This literally could have been written by me! Even down to the panic on the dual carriageway! Well done you and know your po... 1 hour ago
Mum posted a comment on Nervous Newbie! Advice Needed!
Treat this time as an opportunity to real focus on YOU. Maybe there is a hobby you have always wanted to try or an exercise or sport. YOU desreve some TLC and t... 1 hour ago
Justus posted a comment on Nervous Newbie! Advice Needed!
Just take it one day at a time and don’t think about forever yet. Do what you have to do to get through a day. Start building your sober toolbox, which means st... 1 hour ago
Adele posted a comment on Nervous Newbie! Advice Needed!
Hi, Cesca,welcome. It is a bit nerve wracking to begin with. Just focus on NOW, and ignore the thoughts of past and future. Get thru one day sober, then the nex... 1 hour ago
Monkpug posted a comment on Running and fitness
I love this question because I have been working on the same thing. My husband was an army officer for 20 years so I get much help from him. I don’t think anyon... 2 hours ago
TinaDarling24 posted a comment on Just sleep on it
Hi Tabitha. It's great that you have 231 days and have lost weight, congrats! I don't agree that taking a day off from working out or having a cheat meal are... 2 hours ago
Cathrine posted a comment on Protecting my serenity
Great wise words Rachel, My biggest joy around this is recognizing that I can now trust what I need to say and not have fear that I took something out of conte... 2 hours ago
Cesca2829 has posted the blog Nervous Newbie! Advice Needed!
Okay so I’m thinking of giving up alcohol and I’m alarmed by how nervous the thought is making me. Mainly the “what if I can’t do it?” question. So so any advic... 2 hours ago
007mum has commented in the forum discussions All About August
First of all: HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY Dochas! Sorry, was on the ocean on all day, no signal. I hope you had a brilliant day? Kim, HUGE congratulations. What an a... 2 hours ago
Cathrine posted a comment on Day 9
Congratulations on day 9.Its pretty amazing to see how squared our vision on life can get when we drink. The excuses we can come up with to validate our behavio... 2 hours ago
Cesca2829 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 2 hours ago
Villager58 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
New and Wild - 7 months - where did that go? And BabyOnyx (my one time twin, so long ago), on 200 days, BeanCounter on 150 and Jenwren on 100 days. Congratula... 2 hours ago
Rosyapple posted a comment on Running and fitness
I listened to a podcast by spiritualish episode 18, which is called self care but more about self discipline. Which leads to self care really. I found that has... 2 hours ago
Villager58 has posted the blog Top 3 Benefits of being sober - courtesy of the 100 thread
A few days ago someone posted a comment on the 100 thread asking for people’s top 3 benefits of being sober.  The comments poured in and I thought it a shame th... 2 hours ago
Rosyapple posted a comment on She called , I answered.
Oh glittery berry, looking forward to seeing you on here and thanks for this blog reminding us ww and vb are never far away. I often think 'yeah I've cracked t... 2 hours ago
Molly_3 posted a comment on Running and fitness
I go through phases. I joined a running club a few years ago before I got sober and they really inspired me to run and I made so many great friends through ther... 2 hours ago
AnchoredNJ has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Celebrating day 100! I read far more than I comment but want to sincerely thank everyone for their support. All your words and stories at all points in your jou... 2 hours ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on Another article: I tried 'medical marijuana' in sobriety and here's what happened...
Very interesting!my boyfriend and I are thinking about getting stoned together - I havent smoked a lot of pot and when I did I was usually drunk but I was remem... 2 hours ago
Shillybugguk posted a comment on The truth now
Fantastic post and I’m sure every one of us can relate to it. Really moved me. Glad you’ve found your ‘why’ keep moving forward, and know you’ve inspired me tod... 2 hours ago
Cade has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Super Congrats to Trace's Ace's and all the Stoners... Wowzers, Conjenwren for 100 Days and check out BabyO for 200 Days...7 months is Amazing NewandWild......T... 2 hours ago
Breezer posted a comment on It's my SOBERVERSARY!! 1 year AF!!!
Just completed another Day 1 ! Thanks for your message ...it gives me strength 2 hours ago
Tabitha5 posted a comment on Really battling the inner dialogue
Thank you for all of your kind words and doses of reality. It's about time I think you are right that booking the vaca lit the flame in my mind. Today I am back... 2 hours ago
Wren44 posted a comment on She called , I answered.
Hi Glitterberry,Glad you are back with us. Four years is fantastic and I am sure those sober muscles will spring right back into action. Isn't it scary how easy... 3 hours ago
Shillybugguk posted a comment on One year on..back to Day 1
Thank you all so much for your kind and motivating words, this really is the best place online to go to for support, a real safe haven. You’re all wonderful xx 3 hours ago
Katie_41 posted a comment on Back with a sneeze
Freedom from all of that crap- kittens and strangers included! ❤️Katie 1 minute ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on One year on..back to Day 1
Welcome back! And hey - you're already a step ahead with a dream guy that doesn't have problems with alcohol. Focus on you and stock up on all the things you ne... 2 minutes ago
Katie_41 posted a comment on Is this about me? Yes,
I ❤️ this! Thank you! XoKatie 4 minutes ago
alicia1997 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 5 minutes ago
Katie_41 posted a comment on Really battling the inner dialogue
I was going to say before I read the other comments- get rid of the vodka!!! You got this! Why even tempt yourself? xo Katie 6 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on Running and fitness
Have you ever regretted going on a run? NO! Have you ever regretted NOT going on a run? YES! You know what the hardest part of running is? PUTTING ON YOUR SHOES... 7 minutes ago
jafmom has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 10 minutes ago
Ian_Wight has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 10 minutes ago
Biba has commented in the forum discussions Solos'itas
Quakers! 15 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on She called , I answered.
In awe of your 4 years sober. It took some big sober muscles to get there - they just gotta get pumping again. Way to jump back on here again and thank you for... 17 minutes ago



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