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Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day 22 - Help - 0.05% drinks!
Your blog gave me a lift Russy! I love the feeling of getting into bed AF too 😁. I read somewhere that there's more alcohol in orange juice than in 0.05% drinks... 2 minutes ago
Petal has posted in the forum discussions Everyday Life
I'd like to invite you to join me on this new thread. I find that, whilst in the main I'm secure in my sobriety, my moods do fluctuate , this can happen on a da... 4 minutes ago
Phil_Busby79 posted a comment on 10 Days!
10 days is brilliant. You're right. You can do this. 5 minutes ago
Eliza_95 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Mmm I seem to think it’s Chris ‘birthday tomorrow , hopefully she might post soon . Must say our DIL does go for simple birthday parties , organises thing for t... 5 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Telling my inner critic to Eff Off
This was beutiful and very timely Sciencegirl, thank you. Your coach sounds skillful! 9 minutes ago
russy has posted the blog Day 22 - Help - 0.05% drinks!
I’m still going strong! Day 22 and feeling 100% confident I can absolutely get through the rest of the christmas period, to 100 days, a year and beyond.I have b... 27 minutes ago
Soil has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congrats ArchM you’re halfway there! 28 minutes ago
Cathrine posted a comment on GROWTH
Hi Racheal,What a lovely share. Its so promising to read how far you have gone on your journey. All the work that you have done to become the person you are bec... 28 minutes ago
Mart100 posted a comment on GROWTH
Congratulations on 9 months and self discovery xxxxAnd thank you for your support xxxMarta 31 minutes ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on GROWTH
Lovely blog Rayray. I agree, there comes a time when our recovery takes on another level because our tool box is full. The whole point of sobriety is to live th... 38 minutes ago
Bubble_11 has commented in the forum discussions Dauntless December
Hi All. QQ I’ve had a pretty chilled day. Although I still feel anxious in my core if anyone “gets that “. I stayed in bed until lunchtime and then did laundry,... 39 minutes ago
Cathrine posted a comment on It’s not all about me
Hi Icarus,What a honest and heartfelt blog. Self care is pretty alien for alot of ppl, myself included, when we start this journey. I never let things get in th... 40 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on A year in review - early!
Wow, what a difference a year can make!!!! I’m so so so happy for you, and your new found health, wellness and happiness. You’ve worked so hard and have been a... 42 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on It’s not all about me
It is so weird on this side of sober to uncover the self care. And to ask for what we need, in a healthy way. I too was so selfish when drinking, only caring ab... 45 minutes ago
Cathy_1 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Well, I may have got it wrong (who, me?!) but, I think that it’s Chris’s birthday today? If I have that wrong, Chris, I am sorry, but, if I have it correct, I h... 46 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on GROWTH
You’ve been such an inspiration to me. You made sober seem possible, and sparkly!! I’m glad you are continuing to grow into your new sober person. Congrats on 9... 48 minutes ago
Mart100 posted a comment on gaslighting
RayraysoberSo sorry you had to go through such an ordeal!!!! Thank you for your support X I will get through this xxxKnowlege is Power as they say xxxx 49 minutes ago
Rayraysober posted a comment on GROWTH
Thank you!!! You too!!! xxx 53 minutes ago
Caravanner has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good evening istas,marching on towards a sober Christmas. I will be glad when the day is over and I can relax. Stay sAFe X 54 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on To send or not?...Dear husband
I hope you can both find a way to navigate through this. You are brave to send it and let him think his piece. I’m glad he was receptive enough to read it. My O... 56 minutes ago
Sciencegirl posted a comment on GROWTH
Love your positivity and your growth has been incredible! Wishing you a wonderful sober Christmas 57 minutes ago
Rayraysober posted a comment on Day 258. Triggered at the Hairdresser.
Your hair looks amazing!!!!!!!Yes - I have had this several times in sobriety. I actually took Diazepam but what a TERRIBLE idea that was - see my blog post. So... 58 minutes ago
Sciencegirl has posted the blog Telling my inner critic to Eff Off
I had a great session with my coach yesterday. She was giving me positive feedback, and I admitted that I found it quite hard to hear, that I was always afraid... 58 minutes ago
jackie13 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
Rayraysober posted a comment on gaslighting
I was with a gaslighter. I actually turned out to be his 'other woman' - 3 months after I ended things with him I found out that he had had a PREGNANT wife and... 1 hour ago
Petal posted a comment on 15/12/19
I did wonder if she had been drinking when the 'incidents' occurred or maybe she has a quick temper anyway. Likewise, didn't know she was sober. Well, I always... 1 hour ago
Katie_41 posted a comment on 10 Days!
Yes! You e got this🌸Congrats on 10 days!!🥰 xo Katie 1 hour ago
Rayraysober posted a comment on A year in review - early!
Beautiful Ruthy!Isn't it amazing what a year can do??? So great being on this journey with you. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx 1 hour ago
Rayraysober has posted the blog GROWTH
Hi darlings,We're getting very close to Christmas!I just wanted to write with a few updates of how things are going. I turned 9 months sober this week. It feel... 1 hour ago
Be-the-change posted a comment on To send or not?...Dear husband
So I have done it. I spoke my truth, a little, because I couldn't do anything else this morning. I told him that I'd spent the night writing this and we talked... 1 hour ago
Lucie007 posted a comment on Constantly cold
Absolutely, I have been basically freezing since I've stopped drinking :)! Really, without alcohol which warms you I am Always Cold in the evenings. I see it on... 1 hour ago
Mart100 posted a comment on gaslighting
Oh I can feel it comming :(But it will all work out, I can't raise to it xxxx 1 hour ago
PixieDustMagic posted a comment on gaslighting
...and exactly what Ruthy said below. My ex did his share of control and stalking and using the kids, and I did end up at our local woman’s shelter crying to an... 1 hour ago
Mart100 posted a comment on gaslighting
Pixie Dust Magic Thank you, this is reassuring x He wants to lie to kids that I'm moving out for a wee bit with them and that he will get the house sortedin the... 1 hour ago
Lauren_veloz posted a comment on Hi from the bathroom floor...
Thank you so much everybody for your kind and non- judgemental words of support! I am feeling better and I have fed the poor cats! I have already told my mum, s... 1 hour ago
Cathrine posted a comment on gaslighting
Hi Martha,Im not sure what gaslighting is. Ive heard of it but do not understand it all. I just wish you all the best. My advice is just be gentle with the chil... 1 hour ago
Sparkles has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Too cute! 1 hour ago
Lucie007 posted a comment on 10 Days!
Good that you are here - isn't this the hard time always, 10 dayish? You'll be over it tomorrow, and you can be so proud of yourself for your post and your mind... 1 hour ago
adance777 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
Sparkles has commented in the forum discussions Dauntless December
Ha! 1 hour ago
Hawkgirl posted a comment on A year in review - early!
Congratulations on having come so far and achieving so much. 😘 1 hour ago
Mart100 posted a comment on gaslighting
Thank you Ruthy83 x Yes this is what I'm dreading, him trying to control me through children, however one step at a time! He already told me he will see kids ev... 1 hour ago
PixieDustMagic posted a comment on gaslighting
You’ve got support in spades. I left a narcissistic gaslighter 10 years ago—I can tell you 💯 that you are making the best possible decision for yourself and you... 1 hour ago
Hawkgirl posted a comment on 10 Days!
Happy Sunday from the dark damp UK 🌨. You can do this SS you’ve got a lot of sober time under your belt over the year and know the pit falls, youve got to pole... 1 hour ago
Sparkles has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congratulations to everyone on The Flying Free Team!Congratulations to our Monthly Milestone Achievers!❤ Please remember to post regularlyand re-pledge for the... 1 hour ago
Sparkles has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Welcome Back AnnieFox!  You are in the A Team now m’Dear. Carrie_19 thank you for your note!  I changed your Day 1 from the 14th of Dec to the 15th of Dec and w... 1 hour ago
Icarus12 has posted the blog It’s not all about me
A thought struck me yesterday that taking care of myself, with my sobriety as my number one priority, is about self care, but that is not selfish and not to the... 1 hour ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on A licence to drink...
Beautiful Deb, you're a genuine inspiration. Glad you got to enjoy the gorgeous sun we had today :D 1 hour ago
Wildwoods19 posted a comment on House party
You did really well. Bet you felt great this morning while they were all in bed with a hangover! It'll be easier next time X 1 hour ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on gaslighting
470 days is amazing, congratulations. I'm so sorry to hear about the nature of your relationship. Being with someone who is that manipulative and psychologicall... 1 hour ago
Cathrine posted a comment on The Black Dog
Hi PP, I can see that you sent me a message but can't seem to get to it. Im sorry. 1 hour ago
Ruthy83 has posted the blog A year in review - early!
I know it’s about two weeks too early for this post but I’m not sure how much time and energy I’ll have over the next couple of weeks, and I re-read my December... 1 hour ago
Cathrine posted a comment on Still learning
Hi Icarus,I am extremely sensitive to loud noises, and sometimes when he starts yelling I about jump out of my skin. I mean I physically am affected by it. My... 1 hour ago
SiestaSober posted a comment on 10 Days!
Thanks for the support! I carry it with me. 🥰 2 hours ago
Jazzabelle has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi everyone! Congrats to BreathRun on 300 days!!!👍😉❤️ ArchangelMichael on 50 days 🎉🎉PLR-x on 3 months😎👍and Tess 1234 on one month 🤩🤘 2 hours ago
Emwaromida has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hello everyone, Flying Free Team & Month Makers Big congratulations to you all . 🎉🎉🌟🌟🎉🎉🌟🌟🎉🎉🌟🌟🎉🎉🌟🌟🎉🎉Breathrun 300 days 😊🎉🌟🌟fab xArchangemichael Fab 50 🎉🌟🎉😊xB... 2 hours ago
Mart100 has posted the blog gaslighting
Hi All I'm celebrating 470 days of Sobriety today!!!! During this time I've learnt a lot, I worked hard on codependency( thank you to members who pointed me in... 2 hours ago
Cathrine posted a comment on Still learning
Hi Sciencegirl,Hope your week went well. I hope your home with the children safe and sound, and your Mother is doing well.Funny you should say this. I actually... 2 hours ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on 100 Day Crusade
Woo hoo!!!!! Just take it a day at a time, an hour at a time. You’ll get there. Looking forward to reading more of your journey!!! 2 hours ago
Icarus12 posted a comment on Still learning
How lovely you could explain it like that to your GD and recognise those feelings in you. I sympathise with you with your OH as mine has a tendency, especially... 2 hours ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Day 22 - Help - 0.05% drinks!
Your blog gave me a lift Russy! I love the feeling of getting into bed AF too 😁. I read somewhere that there's more alcohol in orange juice than in 0.05% drinks... 2 minutes ago
Petal has posted in the forum discussions Everyday Life
I'd like to invite you to join me on this new thread. I find that, whilst in the main I'm secure in my sobriety, my moods do fluctuate , this can happen on a da... 4 minutes ago
Phil_Busby79 posted a comment on 10 Days!
10 days is brilliant. You're right. You can do this. 5 minutes ago
Eliza_95 has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Mmm I seem to think it’s Chris ‘birthday tomorrow , hopefully she might post soon . Must say our DIL does go for simple birthday parties , organises thing for t... 5 minutes ago
Ruthy83 posted a comment on Telling my inner critic to Eff Off
This was beutiful and very timely Sciencegirl, thank you. Your coach sounds skillful! 9 minutes ago
russy has posted the blog Day 22 - Help - 0.05% drinks!
I’m still going strong! Day 22 and feeling 100% confident I can absolutely get through the rest of the christmas period, to 100 days, a year and beyond.I have b... 27 minutes ago
Soil has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congrats ArchM you’re halfway there! 28 minutes ago
Cathrine posted a comment on GROWTH
Hi Racheal,What a lovely share. Its so promising to read how far you have gone on your journey. All the work that you have done to become the person you are bec... 28 minutes ago
Mart100 posted a comment on GROWTH
Congratulations on 9 months and self discovery xxxxAnd thank you for your support xxxMarta 31 minutes ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on GROWTH
Lovely blog Rayray. I agree, there comes a time when our recovery takes on another level because our tool box is full. The whole point of sobriety is to live th... 38 minutes ago



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