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MegDav posted a comment on So Gratful
Hi Sunshine,The important thing is that you keep coming back and keep trying. I started over so many times throughout the year, and finally, I feel that it stuc... 1 minute ago
Claree has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
10 days AF. 👏👍😊 2 minutes ago
peace has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Brief urgent request: could the bunch of you just yell at me and tell me to throw those %$@*&# nut butters in the trash or feed them to the squirrels or som... 3 minutes ago
BabyOnyx has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good morning lovelies 🤗🥁🥁🥁💃🤺🤸‍♀️🥳🎖💪 - IT'S 6 MONTHS AF FOR OUR FLOPSY, YIPPEE!!! And girl You Did It while living in a Twilight Zone episode with OH 💪💪💪!!! So t... 6 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Good Morning Beauts
I think you should take the time and get better. Work will be there, they clearly love you. If you go back now and you're not ready, then what? Also I think... 6 minutes ago
MegDav posted a comment on Runningonsober Day 18
You are doing an amazing job! It does get better. Isn’t it amazing how good it feels to run without a hangover? Keep doing all the things you already are and e... 8 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Dy 108
Getting sober has been an incredibly spiritual experience for me, quite to my surprise. I often think I was either too drunk or hungover for many years to see... 12 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Afraid
Just be prepared and visualize yourself resisting the craving. It helped me to make a cup of tea or open an AF beer when I would normally drink. You have to s... 14 minutes ago
MegDav posted a comment on Dy 108
Lovely blog! It‘s so wonderful that you are keeping yourself open to new experiences! I am so aware that there is more to this life than just the physical! Jus... 19 minutes ago
Wander_Mom has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
WOOHOO 🥳🙌🏼🎉 for Flopsy!! 6 freakin absolutely amazingly stellar life changing months!!! You are truly a remarkable inspiration for all of us!! What else is poss... 22 minutes ago
Rose4me has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Morning!I just lost my ENTIRE post, which was lengthy! :-( We are ending Saturn retrograde today, but I'm having tech-madness like it's Mercury all over again... 23 minutes ago
Flopsybunny has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
6 bloody months! Can’t believe it!Talk about the most significant and life changing decision I have EVER made.Thank you to all of you who have carried and suppo... 25 minutes ago
Patsytaz has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Morning all, wow have i been reading back and catching up, it's all been going on hasn't it? I'd take pages up to comment on so much of it lol. Great stuff.CC -... 29 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Runningonsober Day 18
Month 1 is definitely the hardest and I remember I was really exhausted despite having the best sleep I'd had in years too. Keep up the exercise as I am convin... 29 minutes ago
Recovery posted a comment on Farming
Hi Pudding,I’m not a farmer but I do work front line in the NHS and it is full on but can get lonely because one gives so much to care for others.I always promi... 30 minutes ago
MegDav posted a comment on Looking forward
Oh you need to blog more! That truly made my day. I’m 5 months sober and love your attitude. Thanks for sharing this!! 33 minutes ago
Wander_Mom has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
For anyone struggling...another song from my playlist that reminds me of all of us here ❤️Harrison Storm “How to Help”https://youtu.be/kaQaggV_iUQhttps://youtu.... 35 minutes ago
PLR-x posted a comment on Farming
Wow! I bet you’re constantly burnt out. I have no advice here at all I’m sorry. Wishing you well❤️ 36 minutes ago
PLR-x has posted the blog Good Morning Beauts
How are we all?The sun is shining down on Birmingham this morning for a change. I had a good sleep, only woke up once. I keep waking up with a headache every mo... 39 minutes ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Day 4 Really hope AF is going to improve things because alcohols my only escape
Good Morning Lassie - good to hear from you.OK; from the top.....1. You are welcome Lassie x2. MY OH annoys me too; but I guess the feeling's mutual. 3. I am fe... 47 minutes ago
Rayraysober posted a comment on Day 190
Awww thanks Duchess 🙏💕 50 minutes ago
Escoffier has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Good Morning. Chris i was sorry to read about Andrew, maybe try and do something nice for yourself in the coming days, that is a lot to take in. Peace, you have... 58 minutes ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on So Gratful
Come on Sunshine! You can do this x 1 hour ago
Cl031 has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Reason or excuse
What a horrible experience. Are you ok? I guess you need to think about other coping strategies? X 1 hour ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Reason or excuse
Daisy; I can truly understand why you drank.I hope those cowards get what's coming their way. Please stay close to us on here. I understand when it feels all co... 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Runningonsober Day 18
It gets better. You're doing all the right things x 1 hour ago
bellina62 posted a comment on The view from the top
This is beautiful Miss_J! And what a view you have now - in all ways! xxx 1 hour ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Afraid
All we have is today; no better day to start x 1 hour ago
Justus posted a comment on Day 4 Really hope AF is going to improve things because alcohols my only escape
Lassie is it possible that after 18 years together with no physical intimacy that your partner sees you more as a friend, or a family member, as you say? It ma... 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Afraid
18 is my favourite number too! Great choice :) 1 hour ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Dy 108
Life begins when fear ends. Beautiful blog Katie, as always x 1 hour ago
Margaret41 has commented in the forum discussions September's Stunning Strengths
Deme, oh I absolutely love bats. They are the most adorable little things when they’re all curled up asleep and slightly terrifying when they are flying around... 1 hour ago
Justus posted a comment on Farming
I'm not a farmer but my family were strawberry farmers so I know how much work it is, and I cannot imagine doing it with a hangover. The internal chat drives u... 1 hour ago
SoberSunday has commented in the forum discussions Day 1 - nothing changes if nothing changes
Hey there, I see it’s been 3 weeks since you wrote this, how has it been? Love your way with words, day 5 for me xx 1 hour ago
NewandWild posted a comment on Farming
There was a lady who had rescue horses. And a few other farm people maybe (?) On the 100-day thread I think... I can imagine how being exhausted would give the... 1 hour ago
SoberSunday has posted in the forum discussions Newbie
Hi all! Dipping my toe in the Soberistas pond. Day 5 for me, longest I have ever done is just under a month and that’s about it. Im 32, a mum of 4 boys and I re... 1 hour ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Quick update on nan’s 95th celebration
WQ; I shouldn't laugh; but I couldn't help it. Sorry. You shouldn't be such a good story teller! Hope you are ok lovely lady. I care about all of the 'Ista's on... 1 hour ago
NewandWild has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
@Poppy - yay for dancing in Befnal Gween! And @Poisonfree - do it. I'm a bit stiff and sore today tho, lol!@SuzieSindy - I went to my friend's graduation for h... 1 hour ago
Justus posted a comment on Fear and Hope
Very relieved to hear from you Jessie. I hope you find your way back to the site. You are loved and missed. 1 hour ago
Nana Treen posted a comment on Looking forward
It's going to be ok Petal, Kop and John are in charge! xx 1 hour ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Looking forward
Bookmarked. How could I not? 1 hour ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on The Little Things...
Love this Poppy, thank you x 1 hour ago
NewandWild has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
@Poppy - yay for dancing in Befnal Gween! And @Poisonfree - do it. I'm a bit stiff and sore today tho, lol!@SuzieSindy - I went to my friend's graduation for h... 1 hour ago
Petal posted a comment on Quick update on nan’s 95th celebration
Oh my goodness. Your poor, poor Gran and mum. I think you got the better end of the deal directing others away from the toilet. I do hope your Gran is feeling b... 1 hour ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Home
You are sounding in a better place Poppy. Your head is becoming clearer and you are seeing that you have choices. This can only be a step in the right direction... 1 hour ago
Earyriser posted a comment on Existence not living.
Thanks for your comments. Not a debbie downer at all justus!! You are right it is hard when you have alcohol everywhere. I will broach the subject. My mother d... 1 hour ago
Petal posted a comment on Looking forward
It is so good to hear from you BT . You have done my heart good today. Can you remember our 1st meet up? I think we were both a little scared but we bonded stra... 1 hour ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Day 190
Rachael, this is beautiful. You are so comfortable in your own skin and serenity oozes out of you. I was really tired last night, and didn't read through all of... 1 hour ago
Jo_609 posted a comment on Reason or excuse
Such a normal response! So sorry something so scary happened. May you find the safety and support you deserve.Jo from SF 1 hour ago
Wander_Mom has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Sending you some love SuzieSIndy !! From one Master’s student racing to her finish line to another....you did it because you are amazing and you believed in you... 1 hour ago
peace has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
I hate the end of summer too, Lacerta. I really struggle with it, but once I deal with it and get into my Fall routines I‘m fine. I love summer so much. Was thi... 1 hour ago
pudding posted a comment on Reason or excuse
I think we can all find an excuse .... I hope you are all ok and wish we could get rid of idiots who think that kind of behaviour is acceptable ... My dad was f... 2 hours ago
PLR-x posted a comment on Day 4 Really hope AF is going to improve things because alcohols my only escape
Good luck love. I hope the spark is reignited for you both. I’m slowly learning that things ARE better without alcohol and without having a fuzzy head in the mo... 2 hours ago
donna_57 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good morning! Very well done to my fellow awsome AF. Huge congratulations to henryjac on 100 and flopsy on 6 months...amazing. Sending love and hugs to you all💓... 2 hours ago
Strawbs has commented in the forum discussions Mid Cheshire Istas out there?
Thanks for the intro Suzanne. Mid November in Chester sounds great. I've been to a few meets over the past 2 years I have been on Soberistas and it is very re... 2 hours ago
scruffyterrier has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
PS am going to have to scroll back now just to see BabyO’s fridge 2 hours ago
PLR-x posted a comment on Runningonsober Day 18
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PLR-x posted a comment on So Gratful
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scruffyterrier has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Villager58 - have you heard of The Artist’s Way, Morning Pages Journal by Julia Cameron. It sounds like you did just that. It’s a great way to start the day and... 2 hours ago
MegDav posted a comment on So Gratful
Hi Sunshine,The important thing is that you keep coming back and keep trying. I started over so many times throughout the year, and finally, I feel that it stuc... 1 minute ago
Claree has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
10 days AF. 👏👍😊 2 minutes ago
peace has commented in the forum discussions NEW YOUNG AT HEART THREAD, SAME ETHOS.
Brief urgent request: could the bunch of you just yell at me and tell me to throw those %$@*&# nut butters in the trash or feed them to the squirrels or som... 3 minutes ago
BabyOnyx has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good morning lovelies 🤗🥁🥁🥁💃🤺🤸‍♀️🥳🎖💪 - IT'S 6 MONTHS AF FOR OUR FLOPSY, YIPPEE!!! And girl You Did It while living in a Twilight Zone episode with OH 💪💪💪!!! So t... 6 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Good Morning Beauts
I think you should take the time and get better. Work will be there, they clearly love you. If you go back now and you're not ready, then what? Also I think... 6 minutes ago
MegDav posted a comment on Runningonsober Day 18
You are doing an amazing job! It does get better. Isn’t it amazing how good it feels to run without a hangover? Keep doing all the things you already are and e... 8 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Dy 108
Getting sober has been an incredibly spiritual experience for me, quite to my surprise. I often think I was either too drunk or hungover for many years to see... 12 minutes ago
Justus posted a comment on Afraid
Just be prepared and visualize yourself resisting the craving. It helped me to make a cup of tea or open an AF beer when I would normally drink. You have to s... 14 minutes ago
MegDav posted a comment on Dy 108
Lovely blog! It‘s so wonderful that you are keeping yourself open to new experiences! I am so aware that there is more to this life than just the physical! Jus... 19 minutes ago
Wander_Mom has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
WOOHOO 🥳🙌🏼🎉 for Flopsy!! 6 freakin absolutely amazingly stellar life changing months!!! You are truly a remarkable inspiration for all of us!! What else is poss... 22 minutes ago



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Almost 1 Year AF By Wannastop


It is now just 24 hours before my one-year soberversary. In a million years, I would not have thought I was capable of doing this. In the past, I have given up drinking a couple of times for a month, and once, for the longest time I had previously ma...

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2019 saw the major event of my 60th birthday for which I threw a garden party, actually feeling for the first time in my life that this was a milestone worth celebrating.  My 40th was an occasion for which I needed to leave the country I wa...

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A Tonic For Turbulence - A Short Story By Jacqui Gregory


“Aaargh! Get me a triple G and T!’ I text to my OH. He has already arrived at the pub straight from work, and is standing at the bar asking what I want. Not usually a problem nowadays; my go-to order is an AF soft drink, topped up with ice and the tr...

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Soberistas’ August Round Up By Lucy Rocca


At the end of every month, starting right now, I’ll be writing a new feature covering both recent and upcoming Soberistas events, what I’ve been up to with regards to our amazing community, and any other bits and pieces that I think may be of interes...

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Lucy Rocca's Story

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After two decades of drinking more than I ever set out to, I kicked the booze once and for all in April 2011. In 2012 I set up soberistas.com and now work full time as editor of the site and am a passionate advocate of alcohol-free living. If you would like to get in touch please email me on lucy@soberistas.com - I’d love to hear from you!

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