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Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on Starting over again
That sounds so scary!!! Day 1 down - onto day 2. Hope the nightmares leave you alone tonight. There’s going to be some wonky sleep these next few days. 3 minutes ago
Traveling_Hermit has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 3 minutes ago
FierceandFree posted a comment on Coping with the slings and arrows
Everyday part of my self-care intention is, may I live this day ever closer to a manifestation of a good life. I read what you are doing--caring for your mom in... 3 minutes ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Coping with the slings and arrows
Justus; three things;1. You are living angel. Your narrative regarding your dear mum has made me cry. She is SO grateful to you Justus. My heart bleeds. 2. You... 5 minutes ago
Soberforward has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi all, day 3 going along pretty good even though the sky’s are gray and work stressful. Listened to the latest episode of the bubble hour with Maria aka Scienc... 8 minutes ago
Retiredandlovingit posted a comment on Living not exsistence
That is what scares me so much. And it is not the 3rd glass of wine that worries me but the 1st.Adele, I love your analogy of "face smashing". Nothing short of... 8 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on Day 2 With Resolve
Great work buckling down and preparing for battle (with the wine witch). These early days are tough but you sound positive getting into day 2!! 10 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on Good news, learning how to celebrate sober ....
Congrats on the good news!! And even bigger congrats for avoiding the wine. Celebrating sober style!! 🎉 14 minutes ago
KimmyB826 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hello all of you wonderful people. I'm on day 17 and feeling pretty good. It's time for me to make it official and make my pledge:I, Kim, do hereby give my word... 15 minutes ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Good news, learning how to celebrate sober ....
Soberangel; that is fantastic news. I'm so happy for you. Enjoy some AF drinks. Nosecco is my favourite x 15 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on Coping with the slings and arrows
I hope you find some healing in the mountains. You have so much on your plate right now - don’t forget to schedule some downtime for yourself. You are a true so... 20 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on Feeling Strong
I can see how ironing would drive you to drink. Haha - kidding!!!!! Way to slam dunk her back into that dusty corner. 469 days is absolutely amazing!!!! 30 minutes ago
Wildfire has commented in the forum discussions Solo's Continued
Hello againSoul great to hear from you.The way I see it this site and particularly this thread is here to help get us sorted ,not to be sorted and then come on... 39 minutes ago
amieven has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 51 minutes ago
Adele posted a comment on Living not exsistence
My best friend asked, “Why can’t you just have one or two glasses?” I thought that was the question of someone who has never been addicted, but I patiently expl... 1 hour ago
Rosyapple has commented in the forum discussions Finally ready
Welcome, lovely to see you.Have a look at 100 day thread which is under forums as that is a great starter and there are many people on there who are on their fi... 1 hour ago
bellina62 posted a comment on Coping with the slings and arrows
It's a tough time for you right now Justus. It will pass. Not drinking is the right choice. Hiking in the mountains sounds like an excellent choice - it's a bea... 1 hour ago
MandyG posted a comment on Coping with the slings and arrows
Absolute respect and support to you and your mum. As Soberistas, when life keeps throwing really, really difficult times at us, we get stronger and rise to the... 1 hour ago
DamYankee has commented in the forum discussions A Separate Space?
Hello everyone: happy tidings Annabella! Hoping to hear more good news of this type soon . . . Sounds like the Manchester meet was lovely, kudos to MW for doing... 1 hour ago
Adele posted a comment on Coping with the slings and arrows
You’re a powerhouse! I am so impressed by you. Enjoy your break in the mountains. ⛩☀️🌖 1 hour ago
bellina62 has posted the blog Feeling Strong
It’s been a particularly fine stretch of weather here in the Washington, D.C. area, and I’ve been enjoying every minute. I’m up early at 5:30 after a long and d... 1 hour ago
Theonebigthing posted a comment on Day 10, 5 years on.
Brilliant post - it’s so true about willingness to change and leaving was a different behaviour for you which was successful. I used to go to slimming world mee... 1 hour ago
Adele posted a comment on
I loved this book. Underlined swaths of it. 1 hour ago
Choccy Shake has commented in the forum discussions London meet ups?
I found it, this looks really good, it was from reading Clare Pooley's book that I found this site!I'm up for attending if it's ok to come along with someone! h... 1 hour ago
Justus posted a comment on Coping with the slings and arrows
Thank you Biba. xx 1 hour ago
DamYankee posted a comment on SATURDAY in MANCHESTER
I'm glad to hear you did this, Treen, kudos! Sounds like a wonderful day xxx 1 hour ago
Soulshineyogini has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 1 hour ago
Biba posted a comment on Coping with the slings and arrows
Respect to you Justus. It's like all your learning is coming into action now. Xx 1 hour ago
Cathrine posted a comment on Across the world and back AF
Hi MT,Im so happy your trip went well. Congratulations on not drinking. Now your really building muscles 💪💪💪Im also struggling with the amount of sugar Im inges... 1 hour ago
DamYankee posted a comment on This one little (big?) thing
The fear you feel is an acknowledgement that you're attempting to change your life, and changing one's life is bloody scary, so go ahead and embrace that empty-... 1 hour ago
Biba has commented in the forum discussions Solo's Continued
Good to see you Soul. You don't have to be all sorted to be on here. I mean look at the rest of us! Moi! Just be as you are and post. You are greatly missed. X 1 hour ago
GentleGiant posted a comment on A mild case of trauma?
Just writing it out must help - you have such a lot to process and take in. As you know I've been doing soul searching and self diagnosing and its uncomfortable... 1 hour ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Two years on........ I'm back
Laverenda, good to see you here and congrats on staying sober through, well, life. As you say, it throws stuff at us and if you're a problem drinker, alcohol ne... 1 hour ago
Cathrine posted a comment on Choosing freedom
Hi Cec,Thank you for your share. As I age, quality of life is becoming so v important to me. This eliminates alcohol.I grieved the loss of alcohol for a while... 1 hour ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Day 10, 5 years on.
Good job returning, Vince. You sound very calm and self-assured: what one has done once, one can do again, yes! My husband also drinks a glass here and there an... 1 hour ago
soultosoul has commented in the forum discussions Solo's Continued
Hello everyone and an enormous warm welcome to you Comfort and well done! You'll do great and from my own experience, a small loving thread like this is the ti... 1 hour ago
Its-time-19 posted a comment on Day 10, 5 years on.
Love that quote, it’s so very true.10 days is awesome 👏 this is your time! X 2 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on 3 and a bit years
Well hello to an almost-sober-twin I didn't know I had (I quit in August 2016)! I'm so glad you decided to share this thoughtful, heartfelt blog with us, it spe... 2 hours ago
Its-time-19 posted a comment on Starting over again
Day one in the bag 👍🏻Well done x 2 hours ago
Cathrine posted a comment on Fall leaves
That's beautiful BabyO,💕💗💕Cathrine 2 hours ago
BabyOnyx has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi everyone 🤔I had a night of Sad dreams, which is an improvement over PTSD nightmares. But when I got up, I swear I could taste the martini concoction I used t... 2 hours ago
Its-time-19 posted a comment on Good news, learning how to celebrate sober ....
That’s wonderful news SA. So many better ways to celebrate 🎉 xx 2 hours ago
DamYankee posted a comment on Running a race is a bit like kicking the booze...
Congrats, Lucy! It's such a pleasure always to read of your accomplishments. And great photos! xxx Diane 2 hours ago
Cathrine posted a comment on SAD
Good work GG,I'm happy to hear you will be here more. Your blogs are helpful and give insight. Keep at it! Your plans are great. 💕💗💕Cathrine 2 hours ago
MissySMT posted a comment on Good news, learning how to celebrate sober ....
Ahh congratulations!! yes agree, the sedation will have made you feel a bit cravey. But soo glad it's good news. Another reason to celebrate on Nov 1st! 🎉 🎉 🎉 2 hours ago
AFsprings has commented in the forum discussions 'Skinny Sista's'
Annabella, so sorry to read about your prang in the car and pleased that you are ok. Hope you get the manage to get the repairs sorted quickly. Hope you have a... 2 hours ago
Needtostopnowuk has commented in the forum discussions Day 1
So much of what you have just written rings true with mei am on day 1 too. Good luck to us! 2 hours ago
Villager58 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Congratulations everyone in the A team, particularly Veeantiblue and Sam281 and to PLR-x on One Month. And welcome all the pledgers and re-pledgers, it feels l... 2 hours ago
Cathrine posted a comment on Two years on........ I'm back
Hi Lavender, Thank you for sharing your experience. 2 years is so wonderful. Life is life, living it sober is definitely better. Great news about your friends.... 2 hours ago
Cec posted a comment on Good news, learning how to celebrate sober ....
Wonderful news. The sedation may have awakened the WA. Starve her away from your healthy body and mind. 2 hours ago
Needtostopnowuk has posted in the forum discussions Finally ready
Hi all,This is my first post on here although I have lurked for a good few years. Since seeing the founder on this morning while I was on mat leave with my seco... 2 hours ago
Flopsybunny has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Morning all!Epic post as always Rose! Funnily enough I did used to have a glass of red on my bedside table more times than I care to recall ! Shudder!Congratula... 2 hours ago
Needtostopnowuk has posted in the forum discussions Finally ready
Hi all,This is my first post on here although I have lurked for a good few years. Since seeing the founder on this morning while I was on mat leave with my seco... 2 hours ago
Vespagirl has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Anybody feeling Tigerish out there? I hope the A team is!Welcome, Beryl/Caravanner. Congrats on 61 days! Rose, I did manage to keep both socks on but once ag... 2 hours ago
Laverenda posted a comment on Arghhhh!
OK 63 days - 1 don't throw it all away. Get back on your perch and forget it and move onwards. Nobody is perfect thank god! 2 hours ago
Needtostopnowuk has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 2 hours ago
Laverenda posted a comment on Starting over again
This sounds like you used wine to deal with difficult times and as long as there was wine you could cover up for things whilst running about like a headless chi... 2 hours ago
zephyr has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Good morning, everybody. I'm sitting here, excited about the day, for no particular reason! How bizarre -- vaguely remember this feeling from...childhood? (Hey,... 2 hours ago
Laverenda posted a comment on Gratitude
I like you new Sarah ☺ 2 hours ago
Justus posted a comment on Good news, learning how to celebrate sober ....
Congratulations!! I know that must be such a huge weight off your shoulders and you certainly don't want to ruin it with wine. xx 2 hours ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on Starting over again
That sounds so scary!!! Day 1 down - onto day 2. Hope the nightmares leave you alone tonight. There’s going to be some wonky sleep these next few days. 3 minutes ago
Traveling_Hermit has joined Soberistas, say Welcome! 3 minutes ago
FierceandFree posted a comment on Coping with the slings and arrows
Everyday part of my self-care intention is, may I live this day ever closer to a manifestation of a good life. I read what you are doing--caring for your mom in... 3 minutes ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Coping with the slings and arrows
Justus; three things;1. You are living angel. Your narrative regarding your dear mum has made me cry. She is SO grateful to you Justus. My heart bleeds. 2. You... 5 minutes ago
Soberforward has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hi all, day 3 going along pretty good even though the sky’s are gray and work stressful. Listened to the latest episode of the bubble hour with Maria aka Scienc... 8 minutes ago
Retiredandlovingit posted a comment on Living not exsistence
That is what scares me so much. And it is not the 3rd glass of wine that worries me but the 1st.Adele, I love your analogy of "face smashing". Nothing short of... 8 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on Day 2 With Resolve
Great work buckling down and preparing for battle (with the wine witch). These early days are tough but you sound positive getting into day 2!! 10 minutes ago
Paddlingupstreamwithoutalcohol posted a comment on Good news, learning how to celebrate sober ....
Congrats on the good news!! And even bigger congrats for avoiding the wine. Celebrating sober style!! 🎉 14 minutes ago
KimmyB826 has commented in the forum discussions 100 DAY AF CRUSADE
Hello all of you wonderful people. I'm on day 17 and feeling pretty good. It's time for me to make it official and make my pledge:I, Kim, do hereby give my word... 15 minutes ago
TheDuchess posted a comment on Good news, learning how to celebrate sober ....
Soberangel; that is fantastic news. I'm so happy for you. Enjoy some AF drinks. Nosecco is my favourite x 15 minutes ago



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After two decades of drinking more than I ever set out to, I kicked the booze once and for all in April 2011. In 2012 I set up soberistas.com and now work full time as editor of the site and am a passionate advocate of alcohol-free living. If you would like to get in touch please email me on lucy@soberistas.com - I’d love to hear from you!

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